You got maximum attention when you fell ill, when you cried, when you threw tantrums, when you got angry, threw your toys around, when you refused to eat your meals...this is human nature and if you don’t grow out of it you cross the line of sanity and end up believing "this is the only way" to get attention. Then these patterns become a part of your personality. And you do irreparable damage to self and others. In most cases, the root cause of acute mental illness lies in our childhood. Be grateful if your parents never gave you or took shit from you. Do yourself and your children a favor and create a sane, spiritual, healthier next generation.